Social Isolation

The other evening, I was talking to my wife, when she asked me, ” Have you been out of the house today”? Not a hard question to answer… or so I thought. I sat there and said, no not today and we continued on discussing something that one of the kids did earlier that day at school.

That simple question, had me thinking, ” when was the last time, I left the house in order to engage in some form of meaningful interaction with the world around me”. Please don’t get me wrong,  I do  go to school a few days out of the week and I also take my kids to practices and attend my weekly counseling session. Yet, I could not recall the last time, I had left the house to go and do something that wasn’t “mandated” in the rule book of adulting. At this particular time, I believe it was going on two weeks. Two weeks of no true interactions with others, besides my family. Two weeks of basically moving from one safe area to another… Two weeks? No, it couldn’t be long, could it?

Social withdrawal is avoiding people and activities you would usually enjoy. For some people, this can progress to a point of social isolation, where you may even want to avoid contact with family and close friends and just be by yourself most of the time.

Maketheconnection.com
https://maketheconnection.net/symptoms/social-withdrawal

Left unchecked, social withdrawal or isolation can lead to or be associated with depression and suicidal ideology. A side effect of isolated oneself is loneliness. This occurs when a person feels they are isolated and where there is a difference between the social relationships they have compared to the social relationships they want.  Social isolation is an impartial judgement that somebody’s social relations and social networks are lacking.

When you find yourself demonstrating antisocial behavior, it’s important to:

  • Address what’s causing you to want to be alone.
  • Reach out to your friends or family members even though it may be the last thing you feel like doing. Research shows that spending time talking with family or friends improves your mood and has a positive effect on health.
  • Connect with Veterans’ groups or participate in clubs or hobbies focused on something you enjoy.

Southern California Veterans Coalition is based on three pillars of healing, Communication, Education and Socialization. We understand the danger in veterans isolating themselves and falling into the abyss of depression. In order to combat this issue, we hold veteran events, educational seminars and opportunities, with support to help their local communities and have get back to doing the things they enjoy in life.

If you are a veteran or you know of a veteran, who is showing signs of withdrawing and isolating themselves, please contact Southern California Veterans Coalition because we have been there and we understand.

The Importance of Self-Care

People all have different requirements for self-care, but in general, the goals of self-care are to find a state of good mental and physical health, reduce stress, meet emotional needs, maintain one’s  relationships, both romantic and platonic, and find a balance between one’s personal and academic or professional relationships.

Meeting one’s own needs tends to make a person more able to help and support others and, generally speaking, to obtain more happiness, and fulfillment from life. In order to facilitate your own healthy routine to make sure your needs are met, it can be helpful to develop a self – care plan centered on :

  • Physical Self
  • Mental Self
  • Spiritual Self
Self-Care Motivation

Filling In the Cracks, By Being Our Own Advocates

“According to a Washington Post report, 19 suicides occurred on VA property between October 2017 and November 2018.”

https://www.stripes.com/news/us/three-veterans-in-five-days-die-by-suicide-at-va-facilities-1.576761

Is it not bad enough that our nation’s veterans are killing themselves at a reported rate 0f 20 plus a day? Is it not bad enough that veterans seeking and asking for assistance are being told to wait months on end until they can get an appointment? Is it not bad enough that our nations veterans are falling through the cracks?


11% of the homeless adult population are veterans.

National Coalition For Homeless Veterans

http://nchv.org/index.php/news/media/background_and_statistics/#facts


It takes more than doing ice bucket challenge or 22 push-ups, yes, these viral phenomena bring awareness to the issues, but they only last for a second or until the next viral sensation arrives. It is up to us, in the veteran community to use our stories, use our selfless service and our leadership skills in order to advocate for ourselves. 

 “According to the latest VA data, 20 veterans die by suicide every day. Of those deaths, 14 are not receiving VA health care.”

https://www.stripes.com/news/us/three-veterans-in-five-days-die-by-suicide-at-va-facilities-1.576761

There are numerous veteran organizations, charities and non-profits that have made it their mission to provide the support and structure for veterans to come together, share that sense of comradery and begin to take their lives back. These organizations and the people who run them all share in the creed of, “You are Never Alone”, and where the Department of Veteran Affairs fails you, we as a community will be there to help fill those cracks. 


A simple gesture, can go a long way.


The best thing about helping a fellow veteran is that you don’t have to be affiliated to any organization to do so, all it takes is some empathy, understanding and the willingness to just sit there and listen. It may be as simple as sending a text or calling that friend or battle buddy that you haven’t spoken to in a while, or that simple look, that makes them know that you understand. So many of our veteran brothers and sisters are falling between the cracks and is up to all of us to fill seal those cracks.

If you are a veteran or know of a veteran in need or is looking to make a connection please contact us at  socalveteranscoalition@gmail.com or socalvetcoalition.org 


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