The other evening, I was talking to my wife, when she asked me, ” Have you been out of the house today”? Not a hard question to answer… or so I thought. I sat there and said, no not today and we continued on discussing something that one of the kids did earlier that day at school.
That simple question, had me thinking, ” when was the last time, I left the house in order to engage in some form of meaningful interaction with the world around me”. Please don’t get me wrong, I do go to school a few days out of the week and I also take my kids to practices and attend my weekly counseling session. Yet, I could not recall the last time, I had left the house to go and do something that wasn’t “mandated” in the rule book of adulting. At this particular time, I believe it was going on two weeks. Two weeks of no true interactions with others, besides my family. Two weeks of basically moving from one safe area to another… Two weeks? No, it couldn’t be long, could it?
Social withdrawal is avoiding people and activities you would usually enjoy. For some people, this can progress to a point of social isolation, where you may even want to avoid contact with family and close friends and just be by yourself most of the time.Maketheconnection.com
Left unchecked, social withdrawal or isolation can lead to or be associated with depression and suicidal ideology. A side effect of isolated oneself is loneliness. This occurs when a person feels they are isolated and where there is a difference between the social relationships they have compared to the social relationships they want. Social isolation is an impartial judgement that somebody’s social relations and social networks are lacking.
When you find yourself demonstrating antisocial behavior, it’s important to:
- Address what’s causing you to want to be alone.
- Reach out to your friends or family members even though it may be the last thing you feel like doing. Research shows that spending time talking with family or friends improves your mood and has a positive effect on health.
- Connect with Veterans’ groups or participate in clubs or hobbies focused on something you enjoy.
Southern California Veterans Coalition is based on three pillars of healing, Communication, Education and Socialization. We understand the danger in veterans isolating themselves and falling into the abyss of depression. In order to combat this issue, we hold veteran events, educational seminars and opportunities, with support to help their local communities and have get back to doing the things they enjoy in life.
If you are a veteran or you know of a veteran, who is showing signs of withdrawing and isolating themselves, please contact Southern California Veterans Coalition because we have been there and we understand.